Journey to The Center of The Heart

This one’s for the ladies.

Let me tell you a somewhat sad story I’ve seen happen so many times.

It’s about a girl who meets a boy.

What makes this boy stand out for her are his endearing qualities. He pays sincere attention to her and makes her feel welcome and comfortable. He initiates conversations and asks about her day. He listens attentively to her every word and gives appropriate responses, making her feel really special as if his day wouldn’t be complete if he hadn’t seen or talked to her. When he talks to her, his eyes focuses on her and makes her feel warm inside. Plus, he’s a real gentleman who maintains a respectable gentlemanly distance as a sign of respect, treating her like a lady. But he can also be very sweet and affectionate.

The girl can’t help but think he likes her. Wouldn’t you? She, as expected, falls for this boy and develops a crush on him. He isn’t the best-looking guy she has ever seen but there’s something about him that simply draws her towards him. She feels he’s genuinely interested in being more than her friend. He likes me! I think he’s even courting me! She thinks to herself. She starts considering saying ‘yes, I’ll go out with you’ to him when he finally expresses his special intentions for her. It could be any time soon, don’t you think? After all, he has been spending a lot of his time and attention on her. 

But she hears something unexpected. The boy has started courting another girl. She also hears that the boy has been liking this other girl for a long time.

It’s only then that the girl realizes that he has really been just courteous the whole time with her. It’s who he is! He was probably raised up to have good manners and was taught to be polite with women, treating them nicely. She finally sees that he treats every person, not just women, the same way he has been treating her!

Ladies, it’s easy to fall for courteous men. There’s not very many of them out there, after all. But it’s more important to be discerning. Try not to let your emotions get the better of you, and try not to project your feelings onto him. You’ll only get disappointed when you find out that he actually doesn’t requite your feelings.

You’ve got to take care of your heart.

Back in my college dorm days, my attention would always get caught by this poster hanging outside the door of one of the rooms. It says, "Assume Nothing." Now that’s the best advice when it comes to these kinds of things!

Hey, admiration is fine. Being inspired by him is okay, too. But once you start pining away for him and singling him out as the object of your affection when he’s not at all interested in making you the object of his can send you on a tailspin. And you’ll end up with a broken heart.

All because you believed that he was courting you, when he was just simply being courteous.

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